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4 Tips to Help You Think and Act Differently

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The first step to solving problems is to think and act differently than before. These 4 tips help you take a new perspective and get results: – Take a Different perspective – Be open minded – Create a work/life balance – Good things happen when you put people first

The first step to solving problems is to think and act differently than before.

It can be a small action, like moving your to-do list to an app in place of your sticky notes that no longer stick and get lost. Or it could be significant, like changing jobs or careers. Either way, and for every scenario in-between, when you think and act differently, you enable success and disrupt failing patterns.

This article shares four actionable tips to help you think and act differently and set you on the path to success. Ready to stop making the same mistakes and take a different perspective?

Table of Contents

[Tip #1] Take a Different Perspective

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TIP #1 [How to think and act differently]: Take a different perspective. Photo by Kristin Wilson on Unsplash

In their famous Think different video, Apple Inc. highlights “the crazy ones, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes…” who share the same trait of positive disruption that Einstein so excelled at. The video opens with Einstein turning towards the camera and closes with the motivational call to action, “… because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones that do.

So how do you change the world? Can you change the world, even?

Isn’t it awfully big?

Your world could be the project you’re working on, the customers you service, and your sphere of influence.

So, yes, you can change the world. Your world. It just takes a different perspective.

Think differently = Take a different perspective.

How Do You Change Your Perspective?

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Photo by Roger Bradshaw on Unsplash

What if your current mouse clicks, responses, and expected viewpoints are so ingrained they’re part of your muscle memory? How do you disrupt those patterns and take a different perspective?

How do you change?

Well, the clue is in the back half of the question. You change.

Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines “change” in several ways:

  • to give a different position, course, or direction to
  • to replace with another
  • to undergo transformation, transition, or substitution

Stop the destructive processes and procedures that long ago spawned organizational gridlock, and replace them with ideas and actions that make ideas spread and tasks flow.

Replace old for new. That’s how you change the world. How you solve the problems others can’t.

Act differently = Take action. Stop the old and replace with the new.

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[Tip #2] Be Open Minded

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TIP #2 [How to think and act differently]: Have an open mind and find growth where others find disaster. Photo by Miguel Bruna on Unsplash

Having an open mind encourages a growth mindset. When you are open to learning new concepts, you fill your mind with fresh ideas you can put into practice, so when your colleagues, boss, or client asks, “Can you help solve this problem?” you can.

Your deep pool of knowledge gives you a clear perspective on the root cause of the problem and how to produce the solution.

Because you listen and learn and deliver, you have a reputation for being easy to work with and for getting things done. You:

  • Are open to learning new things.
  • Create solutions others haven’t thought of.
  • Reduce friction and frustration at home and at work.

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In the this episode of The Be Helpful Experiment I discuss how being open-minded is more than just listening to new ideas that confirm our bias and offer 3 practical examples.

[Tip #3] Create and Maintain a Work/Life Balance

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TIP #3 [How to think and act differently]: Sometimes your focus is work, other times it’s family. In the mid to long term, it should feel balanced. Photo by Barbara Horn on Unsplash

The phrase work/life balance conjures up an image of a grocer’s scale with a matched number of hours on each plate. In reality, a work/life balance is more a pendulum or wave where your focus shifts between family, friends, and work as needed.

A benefit to being in balance is the positive mindset it creates.

You’re not spending all your time at work feeling guilty about the family moments you’re missing. Nor are you stressing about work while you’re trying to laze away happy hours with parents, partner, or progeny.

Three ways to create and maintain a practical balance between work and life:

  1. Use your time wisely.
  2. Help everyone understand why your focus is where it is.
  3. Be calm when you listen to a diverse range of opinions.

Use Your Time Wisely

Help Everyone Understand Why Your Focus Is Where It Is

When your family sees the sensible ways you spend your time, they will understand why your focus is where it is.

If the intention for your focus isn’t obvious to those around you, ask yourself these two questions:

  • Who am I spending most of my time with?
  • Is that short changing anyone?

There’s a finite amount of time available to us, which means as we’re giving to one group of people we’re taking from another.

At work, when I’m spending a lot of time with one team, am I short changing another group or department who needs my help? How does that help them? Is that detrimental to their ability to perform their duties?

On the flip side is the group I’m spending most of my time with thinking, “If Paul just left us alone to do our own thing, we’d be all right.”

Remain Calm When You Listen to a Diverse Range of Opinions

The more information and feedback we receive, the more likely we are to understand the problems people face. Which means we can provide the solution that actually solves their problems.

How do we listen to opinions that differ from our own? We listen without reacting.

Stay calm and take on board what you’re hearing. This prevents the mental leap from erroneous assumption to ruinous conclusion. This helps you think about the message—the spoken words and the ones left out—and understand their meaning. You can find the great idea, the golden nugget, amongst the sand and rocks of the message that might rub you raw.

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I share several relatable examples for a work/life balance and statistics from two major surveys that highlight how we typically spend our days.

[Tip #4] Good Things Happen When You Put People First

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TIP #4 [How to think and act differently]: Respect each other. Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

Look Out for Each Other

I’ve found life is far more enjoyable when we look out for each other and experience life together. Not strive for success by standing on everyone or putting each other down. Thankfully, looking out for each other is a common trait in 99% of the people I’ve worked with, for, and met.

People First is treating others the way you want to be treated.

Respect People’s Time

Who enjoys filling out endless forms, waiting on hold for hours, or having to repeat oneself because the person “helping” us isn’t listening and keeps giving the wrong information?

And who among us has sighed with relief and gratitude after a short and productive meeting, or for the simple and efficient process we have just encountered, or for our colleagues who follow through on their promises?

Putting people first at work is respecting both them as a person and their time.

Here are some examples:

  • Your requests for help are not last minute, the world’s on fire, there will be mass panic if this isn’t done RIGHT NOW!
  • Your meetings are to the point, and it’s clear why the meeting was called and what the action items are.
  • The processes you ask others to follow are obvious, efficient, and deliver the expected results.
  • When people work with you, they know you are listening to them and taking action. The information they provide doesn’t disappear into a bureaucratic maze of forms, spreadsheets, and surveys.

When work is enjoyable and frustration free, even if individual days can be maddening, we’re improving our satisfaction with the work we do and achieving the targets and goals set for us.

Which reduces stress and raises satisfaction and engagement with the work we’re doing and the people we work with.

The outcome of a People First approach is your colleagues, clients, and team want to work with you, to do what you asked them to do.

Not because they have no choice, but because they trust you.

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Why We Should Think and Act Differently

There are many personal reasons to think in new ways and change our behaviours. We may want to break bad habits, to become more spontaneous, mindful, kind, or generous.

In business, the ability to think and act differently ignites innovation, sparks growth, and fires-up success. Examples include the iPhone, cloud computing and software-as-a-service, and ride-sharing services such as Uber.

When we don’t innovate, when we remain stagnant in our thinking and actions, we perpetuate the problems that generate waste and cause us to quit our jobs in frustration.

Imagine going to a petrol station to fill your car and pouring one gallon of fuel—that you’ve already paid for—across the garage forecourt. Every trip.

That is how it feels when we don’t think and act differently. When we repeat the same mistakes over and over and expect different results.

Bonus Question: What If Thinking & Acting Differently Feels Impossible to Do?

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Having a positive attitude that’s true to you makes thinking and acting differently a sustainable habit. Photo by Steven Aguilar on Unsplash

It begins with a positive attitude, one that is authentic to you. Not fake smiles and cheap platitudes borrowed from a celluloid depiction of the suburban dream with white picket fences and the perfect family.

Your style of positivity is likely different to mine and is distinct from your colleagues and clients. And that’s perfect.

The goal is to be personable, to be proud of the work you do, to see growth in adversity, rather than disaster and calamity.

Why Do You Need a Positive Attitude?

Authentic positivity is a boon to building trust and increasing resilience from stress and burnout. It helps me through the days when the coffee pot is empty or I need to take a walk before responding to the angry email bullying my inbox and demanding my attention.

4 Ways to Build a Sustainable Positive Attitude

Like everything in life, there’s a balance. A bit of happy, a bit of sad, a bit of good, a bit of bad. The following behaviours help make thinking and acting differently a sustainable and healthy habit:

  1. Take a different perspective.
  2. Be open-minded.
  3. Maintain a work/life balance.
  4. Put people first.

Recap: Think and Act Differently is Like a Delicious Sandwich

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RECAP: Thinking and acting differently is the bread and your positive habits are the filling that makes it a satisfying sandwich. Background Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

Think Differently and Act Differently is the bread that holds the sandwich together. A perfect slice on either side. You need both. You can’t have a hunger busting, awesome sandwich with only one slice of bread. There would be nothing to hold the filling.

The filling and the flavors that bring it all together are:

  • Be open minded: you’re open to new ideas and consider solutions others haven’t thought of.
  • Maintain a balance between work and life: You use your time wisely, everyone understands why your focus is where it is, and you listen to a diverse range of opinions.
  • Good things happen when you put people first: You treat others the way you want to be treated.
  • put a smile on your face
  • put you in a good mood
  • enable you to take a different perspective on the problems around you and to find the right solutions

Ready to take a bite of the think and act differently sandwich? Yum!

Additional Reading

This is the first article in a four-part series on how to solve business problems.

Think & Act Differently shares strategies for how to take a different perspective when solving problems.

Ethical Leadership highlights ways to build trust with your colleagues and clients so they believe in your solutions.

Ask the Right Questions introduces two powerful questions that get to the root of the problem and help you define the right solution.

The final article, Develop The Be Helpful Keystone Habit, takes the strategies highlighted in the previous articles and turns them into a powerful and lasting habit.


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